I Don't Like Cricket, Oh no.. I Love It!

With enormous pride coursing through my veins after Shane Watson's outstanding and admirable performance for the Australian Cricket Team in the first day of the Fifth Test at The Oval yesterday, I have been left with the urge to post something Cricket.  Watson copped a ball just below the ear coming at him at 88mph at the hands of England's Stuart Broad.  I always get a little nervous when Broad's up to bowl but now it will be for a whole different reason.  Watson went on to make his career best of 176 runs, which in my opinion should go down in the history books after a blow like that.  What a trooper! I could write all day about how Shane Watson is the best all-rounder cricketer around, but I sadly think I would be the only one who would get anything out of it or read it for that matter.  So......

Have you found yourself in a relationship where your partner is obsessed with watching the Cricket?  I myself was in this situation a couple of years ago... and then I actually started paying attention and walked out with a love of cricket that my next partner will have to tolerate.  (*Inserts evil laugh here*) Cricket in someway has always been part of my family as my granddad used to play and umpire, but it wasn't until I met a cricket obsessed boyfriend that I even bothered to give it the time of day.  Little by little I picked up things while watching, but why not take a few minutes now to learn some basics that are sure to impress your partner.  I will admit in Cricket, there is much to learn, but what I have found is that the more I learn the more I enjoy the game.  So next time your partner tries to explain to you what is happening, you can knock their socks off and finish their sentence.  Of course there will still be much to learn but it can't hurt to start here.

To start with TERMINOLOGY:-

• "Stump" - A stump is the three vertical posts that form the wicket. 
• "Off Stump" - Is the stump on the offside of the wicket.  Or better described as the same side of the batsman's bat. (this can change depending on if the batsmen are left or right handed.) 
• "Middle Stump" - Is the center stump as per names suggestion.
• "Leg Stump" - Is the stump on the onside of the wicket.  Which means the same side as the batsman's leg. (also can change depending on if the batsmen are left or right handed.)
• "Stumps" - Is also a term that is used to indicate the end of a days play.
• "No ball" - Is a ball delivered incorrectly and becomes a penalty to the fielding team.  The batting side receives an additional run and another ball must be bowled in its place. 
• "Beamer" - Is a ball that does not bounce and passes above the batsman's waist height.  The penalty of a beamer is an instant no ball. 
• "Wide Ball" - A wide ball is a delivery of the ball either too wide or high for a batsman to hit.  This is determined by the umpire.
• "Third Umpire" - the third umpire is an off field umpire, also known as a TV umpire.  This umpire makes final decisions on questions passed on to him by the two umpires on the field.  
• "Hat Trick" - A hat trick, not to be mistaken with a velvet hat trick LOL, is when a bowler takes out 3 wickets one after another. 
  

Now for the BASICS:-

• There are 11 players per side.
• Each turn to bat while the other team fields is known as an innings.
• There are 6 balls bowled in an over.
• Boundaries: 4 points are earned when the ball bounces before the barrier. 6 points are earned if the ball goes over the barrier or into the crowed.
• A Test Match has four innings.  Meaning each team bats and fields twice.
• A One Day International (ODI) have a set number of overs that each team face.
• Twenty20 International have 20 overs per side.
• "How's That!" is a phrase yelled out when a fielder believes a batsmen is out.  It is then up to the umpire to make the call.
• A batsmen can be run out or stumped if any part of him or his bat are behind the crease.

And lastly, WAYS A BATSMEN GETS OUT:-

• BOWLED - When a wicket is hit by a bowlers delivery of the ball.  It does not matter if the ball has first touched the bat, glove or any part of the batsmen beforehand.
• CAUGHT - If the ball hits the bat or the batman's hand before being caught by a fielder, they are out.
• TIMED OUT - The next batsman up after the previous batsman is out has 3 minutes to be at the crease ready for play.
• HIT THE BALL TWICE - If the ball is hit twice by the batsman other then for reasoning of protecting his wicket, he is out. 
• HIT WICKET - After a balls delivery if a batsman's body or bat knocks his wicket out, he is out.
• OBSTRUCTING THE FIELD - If a batsman purposely obstructs the opposing team by word or action, he is out.
• RUN OUT - If the wicket is put down whilst the batsman is behind the crease at any time during the play of the ball.
• STUMPED - If the batsmen is out of his crease and not attempting to run the wicket keeper can put down the wicket resulting in the batsmen being out.
• LEG BEFORE WICKET (LBW) - The fielding side is entitled to appeal if the ball hits any part of the batsman (with the exception of the hand holding the bat) but would have otherwise hit the wicket if the batsman had not been in the way.

Remember, don't be afraid to ask questions.  If it's something they are passionate about they will be more then willing to teach you all they know.  And more importantly, impressed by your interest in not only letting them spend date night watching the game, but that you are taking the extra mile and learning about something that is important to them.

And even if I am the only person who will ever read this post.... at least I can look back on the little things I have learnt as a proud Australian Cricket supporter!  And, thank god for commentators and wikipedia :)  I don't like cricket.. oh no, I LOVE IT ! 

The Curse of Unrequited Love

Unrequited love is among the most painful things that one can feel and unfortunately we have all felt the heartache that comes with it at least once in our lives.

To add to this, social media makes it so easy to look into things that are said. You find yourself asking, “What does he/she mean by that?” or “Does that mean he/she is thinking about me.” Or my favourite, “What he/she really means is.” The entirety of it can be exhausting. And because you are feeling something that they are not aware of, it can result in emotional draining. You get defensive over text messages that may very well just be an outcome of you misreading what is written. Or alternatively to this, even making excuses for someone mistreating you.

You distance yourself from the person to ease the hurt and hopefully take away your feelings for them, but instead you find yourself romanticizing them. Focusing on all the things that they would do if you were with them, or even magnifying what they have done in the past, much like you would do in a toxic relationship. You find yourself focusing on the things that they have done in the past or what you hope they would do, rather then what they actually do.

There is no easy way to escape this curse. There is always the option of telling the person your true feelings, which can possibly lead to your feelings being returned, but if this backfires you are left with nothing but rejection. Fear of rejection is ultimately what stops us from expressing our true feelings to the people we have them for. And our lack of belief in ourselves is what leads us to think that we are not remarkable enough for the person of our desires to notice us in any real way.  Some people just aren't ready to let go of the possibilities that can be shattered when those feelings are not returned.

There really are only 2 options:

1.   Tell the person. If they do not feel the same, you no longer have the hope and can take the first steps to moving on with your life and finding someone who can return your feelings.

2.    Keep prolonging the negative feelings that come with your secret until the object of your desire has unknowingly hurt you more then you can handle.

I say, do everything you can to convince yourself to tell your crush how you feel. At least then you know if there is a chance, as opposed to wasting your time hoping that there may be one and trying to find signs of interest or common feelings. Life is too short to play the “what if” game. Nobody likes playing games when it comes to their feelings, so why subject yourself to doing just that? Take the risk and believe that you are worthy of being loved back. If they do not see you for who you are then the only solution to this is finding someone who does. No need to change or downplay yourself just because someone is blind to your worth.

At the end of the day, there really are no answers to this one. Some situations can be stickier then others. Some people just don’t have the option to be able to tell the person of their passion how they feel. Whether it be because your crush is married, in a relationship, a parent of your friend, or even a really close family friend. These situations leave prolonged awkwardness. Not everyone has the opportunity to walk away if things do not go the way they hope. If you have any ideas on how to cope with unrequited love or any personal stories of your own experiences, please share in the comment box below. Your experience may help someone else.

Hens Night Madness!!

Just a quick update of my awesomely fun-filled weekend. There is nothing like a traditional hens night party to bring out all the willies and equally just as much alcohol and girly immature fun :) 

Saturday night found me slipping into my cricket outfit, complete with mini bat, cap and sneakers and enthusiastically playing the part along with my friends with parts of their own: Dee (the nun and bride to be), East (the bad ass biker chick) and Mel (the hot teacher)! 

The night consisted of penis straws and rings, a shirtless waiter, inflatable doodles, a male blow up doll, a pin the willy on the man, a peni piñata filled with condom surprises, ginormous granny undies that read "size matters" (that I did a little dancing in!), terrible karaoke attempts, a blindfold with a winky on it that resulted in my brother pointing out the obvious and calling me a dickhead (Thanks Douggie!) and I can't forget the solo 2013 Ashes cricket score checks throughout the night. 

East and I ended up going into town afterwards with new found confidence and made friends and models out of the security guys at our favourite nightclub. We also discovered fellow costume party goers even more flamboyant then ourselves that were more then happy to pose for pics. Embarrassingly after getting into the club by showing my ID, I was re-carded when getting a drink at the bar. (I still think she was trying to suss out what cricket player I was!!) :) but nothing could have been more embarrassing then discovering I still had my eye mask on my hat that read "wake me for sex!" That came off quick smart!  

Nothing like a bit of silliness to make you appreciate the people you have in your life even more then before. Wishing my beautiful friend Dionne and her husband-to-be Michael a full-filling life as husband and wife. 

To find little goodies for your hens night, check out our website www.confidenceiskeylingerie.com.au to find something a little naughty to make your night! 

10 Ways To Drive Your Man Wild

Are you looking for new ways to drive your man crazy? Creativity and confidence is all that is required. Break out and allow yourself to explore someplace new and leave your comfort zone behind for awhile. Don’t be afraid to try new things even if they leave you with a lump in your throat and your heart beating erratically.  Surprising him with the unexpected can be the biggest success for a turn on. Our insecurities are often our reason for playing it safe sexually, but you would be surprised at what thinking outside of the box can do for your partner, not to mention yourself. Here are just 10 ways to start you off that will drive him wild. With a bit of imagination and confidence this list can be never-ending.

1. Act out your passion – When making love don’t just go through the motions. Let loose and act out your desires as you commit fully to what you are doing. It will drive him wild knowing that you are enjoying the sex as much as he is.

2. Express yourself – Verbalize the admiration that you have for him, his body and the things that he does. Boosting his ego and turning him on will make him feel sexy and he won’t be able to keep his hands to himself.

3. Surprise him with oral sex – Drive him wild by performing oral sex when he least expects it. Eg: wake him up by sucking on his morning wood, show your appreciation when he’s doing the dishes, or make a long drive interesting and surprise him while he’s driving...

4. Stroke him from behind – Approach your man from behind and emulate the way he would touch himself, all the while kissing his neck and shoulders.

5. Let him watch – Masturbate in front of your man as if you are all alone. There is an almost certain guarantee that he will not be able to keep his hands off you long enough to finish solo.

6. Shower time fun – Massage him in the shower when you are washing him, including a scalp massage as you wash his hair.  But be sure to leave the most sensitive part till last and attend to it thoroughly for an explosive finish.

7. Take Control – Use a little dominance and boss him around a bit. Don’t be afraid to get a little firm when he is disobedient to your commands. By taking control you are radiating confidence that will drive him wild and make him want to do anything you desire.

8. Talk dirty – in the right situation and circumstances a man hearing you say filthy words seductively, particularly if you are generally curse free, can really turn a man on.

9. Let it out – Men like nothing more to hear your moans and expressions that come from him pleasuring you. Men like to know when they are doing something right. Go all out and let him know when he is hitting the spot or that you are about to reach climax.

10. Strip Tease – Dress up in some sexy lingerie and provocatively remove the layers to the beat of music playing in the background. Give him his own personal strip show that will leave him completely satisfied, instead of teased and penniless. You can find a range of affordable and striking lingerie here.

Remember, a man who is regularly surprised by your efforts can prevent you and your partner from falling into a rut or losing the spark.  A man whose girlfriend can drive him wild and keep him guessing, is a happy man.

Top 10 sexy male artist voices

WARNING: Yumminess overload!!

Just a fun and random blog topic for a Saturday night, while everyone else is out partying and enjoying the effects of a nice icey cold rum :)  There is something about a sexy voice that just makes you weak in the knees... make that a sexy singing voice and it can make a girl hooked to any song they will ever sing. Haha.  Okay so maybe it's just me, but I have loved songs purely because I have been captivated by the voice of the singer.  Here are my top 10 male artist that have captured my attention for their vocals.  I have chosen my favourite songs that capture the complete sexiness of their breathtaking voices.  It just adds to the attractiveness and appeal of each and every one of them :)

1.  Jonathon Foreman (Switchfoot)

2.  Darren Criss & Matt Bomer (Glee)

3. Brad Paisley 

4. Brendon Urie (Panic! at the Disco)

5. Sam Larsen (Glee)

6. Michael Painter

7. Mike Rosenberg (Passenger)

8.  James Arthur

9.  Reece Mastin 

10. Olly Murs

I am interested to know if there is anybody out there who has had a "I don't care what your singing, I love this song because your voice is damn sexy" moment or likes any particular songs for the same reason :)  

A single girls guide to LIVE NRL games

I went to my first ever LIVE NRL game today. For me this is something very unheard of.  I went in knowing nothing other then that Nate Myles would be playing.  Of course, first I had to do my google research to know exactly who Nate Myles was. LOL Best i could gather, was that he is NRL's version of crickets Shane Watson. :) Turns out the game was Rabbitohs VS Titans.   The only other football game I have bothered to watch in my life time was the State of Origin about two weeks ago!  Here are a few pointers I learnt from my surprisingly not entirely disappointing experience.

1. Find the most perve appropriate seating in the general admission area. Cuz when the game gets boring you're ganna need something to look at. :)

2. Be prepared no matter where you sit to have someone squat directly in front of you, with no regard to your personal space or whether or not you can see the field over their head.

3. Bring your own food and drinks unless you can justify spending $4 on a bottle of water.

4. Pack extra excitement for when no one else is showing any enthusiasm. You may need to cheer for the entire crowd.  This would appear to be the case during pre-games of higher profile games.

5. Sit next to supporters of the same team. This saves you from wasting time actually having to learn any rules and you don't have to listen to that drunk guy holding a flag screaming out encouragement to the team you are betting on to lose.

6. Bring sunnies. This is a win win step. It protects your eyes from the glare and hides the direction of your eyes.  It may appear to everyone you are watching the game, but you really just noticed that guy in front with the sexy tattoos :)

7. Prep yourself with soft ass padding to prevent your butt from falling asleep. Surprisingly grassy hills are not as comfortable as they look. 

8. Arrive early. Unless you wanna have to sit on someone's lap, arrive well prior to the game to ensure a decent seat.

9. Bring sunscreen. No matter how you look at it, a burnt sunglasses mark just isn't sexy. 

10. By time the game is finished, your hands have a mind of there own and you find yourself clapping and cheering at the top of your lungs rooting for your chosen team and joining in on that mexican wave that goes around the entire footy field.  Surprisingly men tackling each other over a ball is actually very entertaining :)

So whilst I initially had low hopes of enjoying the experience as I desperately wished that it was an Australian cricket match I was spending my day on, I actually had a fantastic time despite my resulted sunburn and sore ass!  Of course, I'm still keen for the day I get myself to a LIVE Cricket match, but I wouldn't entirely hate to experience a LIVE footy game again.  Granted next time i'll be packing my cushy seating and sunscreen lotion.

10 Signs you are not over your ex

To everyone who has ever been heartbroken, it is a disappointment to know that there is no set time frame for when you no longer suffer these signs that are to follow. The fact of the matter is, love hurts.  When it comes to failed relationships there is no such thing as simple fixes to mend a broken heart. Many suppress the initial hurt to protect themselves from feeling the excruciation.  But when all inevitably slows down, there’s nowhere to hide.  Here are 10 signs that you are not over your ex.  There is no shame in this.  Hang in there.  Don’t let yourself give up on finding your smile again.

1. Everything still reminds you of them. 
You cannot get through a day without seeing, hearing, eating or smelling something that reminds you of that special dish your ex cooked, songs that you both listened to or sang, a scent they wore or places you went together. If you feel the need to change the radio station when particular songs come on or you avoid places that were regular hangouts for you, this is a real indication that you have not let go of your ex.

2. You think you see them everywhere.
No matter where you are or what you are doing you catch a glimpse of a reflective shirt, certain type of vehicle, or particular body build and all of a sudden you feel your heart pick up  pace and you feel weak in the knees. Then you realise… it’s not them at all. You feel relieved and disappointed in equal measure.

3. You don’t notice other people’s interest in you.
Someone new is trying to get close to you and you don’t even notice. All you can think about is your past. Your future feels like a black hole without your ex and blindly you shut out opportunities that are right in front of you.

4. You compare everyone to them.
You cannot meet someone of the opposite sex without comparing them to your ex. You spend more time picking out or noticing the similarities they have to your ex instead of noticing their individuality. No-one will ever be good enough if you measure them up against someone else.  Everyone deserves better then that.

5. You constantly cyber stalk them.
You have deleted them from Facebook for your own emotional stability, but that doesn’t stop you from checking their wall... even if it’s just to see their picture for the millionth time, because you can no longer access anything else.

6. You can’t part with gifts they gave you.
You find yourself holding on to the mementos from your relationship. You are just not ready to throw away the memories. Keeping these tokens keeps you connected to the person you have lost.

7. You fantasize about being reunited. 
You find yourself fantasizing about ways your ex would come back into your life to reunite what you had. Ways they would express their undying love for you and want to start all over again and spend the rest of their lives with you…..

8. You are still trying to figure out what went wrong. 
You still play over every conversation, action or hiccup that went down in your relationship, trying to find signs of where it went wrong and what you could have done to make your ex want to stay with you. Wondering if there was something you could have said to have guaranteed your connections survival, preventing you from this ultimate demise.

9. They still come up in most conversations. 
You cannot help but talk about them. “He/she used to do this”, “He/she would have loved this.” You speak of them as if they are still the most important person in your world.

10. You become the Green Eyed Monster. 
The thought of your ex meeting someone else breaks your heart and you harbour jealousy of all those people that still get to be in his/her life.