Common mistakes couples make in long distance relationships

Do not refuse to get a webcam – put your self-consciousness aside and invest in a webcam.  There is no better way to keep yourself invested in your efforts of a long distance relationship then seeing your partners’ facial expressions when you talk to each other.  It is important to remember that men in particular are very visual people. 

Assume your partner knows how you feel – Do not stop talking to your partner about how you feel.  Just because you are sharing the situation does not mean you shouldn’t share how it makes you feel and definitely do not neglect to let them know they still mean the world to you. 

Taking your partner for granted – do not make the mistake of taking your partner for granted. Do not stop making effort because you assume you always have your partner.  Long distance relationships require more effort than a no distance relationship to keep the love and spark alive and kicking.  Do not lose appreciation for the connection that was too strong to call it quits when you become separated.

Not having a plan – do not be blasé about what is to come or have the attitude that you will take it as it comes.  Have a plan of where you would like to be in the future.  Make a plan as to visits and keeping each other close even though you are far apart.

Accusations of the unknown – Long distance relationships come with their fair share of paranoid feelings of what your partner is up to and who they are with.  Do not let this take over and find yourself accusing your partner of something you have no proof of ever happening.  Trust is key; no relationship can survive without trust.  Give your partner the benefit of the doubt.  Have faith that they love you too much to through it away on a fling when you are apart.

Ignoring the life that’s in front of you – succumbing to your loneliness will only make it that much harder for you to deal with what is.  Go on about the life that is right in front of you.  Do not allow yourself to sit by the phone and pine away for the next time you get to hear your partner’s voice.  Keep yourself busy, but not so busy that you can never be reached when your partner is able to contact you.