1. SHOCK
Losing someone you love can be one of the most excruciating things that come
with life. You find yourself looking
down on your body in such a state of shock that you find yourself numb to the
reality and on some level even denying the truth merely out of disbelief. This is an emotional security that gets mournful
people through the initial heart-wrenching pain. There are no set times for these stages in
the grieving process as everyone’s experience is different. But this state of
denial can last weeks.
2. PAIN
Sooner or later the reality will take over your primary shock and denial and be
replaced with near unbearable pain. A
lot of people make many bad choices to break away from this pain and feel
anything else. Alcohol and drugs are not
the solution to this stage. It is crucial
to your grieving process that you feel the blunt of your loss and feel the full
extent of what has happened.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING
Frustration comes next and causes no shortage of anger. You may lash out and blame others for your
loss. It is important to do all you can
to control this. There is no point in
causing permanent damage to your relationships with the people who are still
with you. Find other ways to release your bottled up emotions. Bargaining with a higher power also occurs
during this time. Your faith becomes apparent
as you beg the powers that be to bring this person back to you, all the while
making promises and bargains that you wouldn’t otherwise be considering.
4. DEPRESSION
A long phase of reflection and sadness follows the anger and bargaining. Perhaps because you realise that not even a
higher power can bring this person back and that you have no choice but to go
on with life alone. Depression is a
normal stage of the grieving process and should not be avoided. People may try and get you out of this stage,
but it is important that you take the time to accept what is and process it to
its full extent.
5.
THE UPWARD TURN
Your depression will begin to fade slowly once you find yourself adjusting to a
life without the person you have lost.
Life will eventually become easier and structure will return as you come
at peace with your loss.
6.
RECONSTRUCTION
When you begin thinking realistically and more clearly again you will be able
to see solutions to problems that have arisen as a result of your loss. You will start to reconstruct your life to
continue without your loved one.
7.
ACCEPTANCE & HOPE
The final phase in the seven stages of grief reward you with acceptance and
hope for your future. Acceptance does
not promise immediate happiness, but given the rollercoaster of emotions that
you have experience during your grief, it is important to remember that if you
can get to this point after that, then a way forward is at arm’s length. It will never be okay that someone is gone,
but it does get easier. Eventually you
will find yourself in a place that you can look back on the memories of your
loved one with a smile on your face as opposed to tears in your eyes, a place
that brings hope for a redesigned future.
Thank you for this, I really needed it...! Thank you so much... God bless...
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