10 Ways To Drive Your Man Wild

Are you looking for new ways to drive your man crazy? Creativity and confidence is all that is required. Break out and allow yourself to explore someplace new and leave your comfort zone behind for awhile. Don’t be afraid to try new things even if they leave you with a lump in your throat and your heart beating erratically.  Surprising him with the unexpected can be the biggest success for a turn on. Our insecurities are often our reason for playing it safe sexually, but you would be surprised at what thinking outside of the box can do for your partner, not to mention yourself. Here are just 10 ways to start you off that will drive him wild. With a bit of imagination and confidence this list can be never-ending.

1. Act out your passion – When making love don’t just go through the motions. Let loose and act out your desires as you commit fully to what you are doing. It will drive him wild knowing that you are enjoying the sex as much as he is.

2. Express yourself – Verbalize the admiration that you have for him, his body and the things that he does. Boosting his ego and turning him on will make him feel sexy and he won’t be able to keep his hands to himself.

3. Surprise him with oral sex – Drive him wild by performing oral sex when he least expects it. Eg: wake him up by sucking on his morning wood, show your appreciation when he’s doing the dishes, or make a long drive interesting and surprise him while he’s driving...

4. Stroke him from behind – Approach your man from behind and emulate the way he would touch himself, all the while kissing his neck and shoulders.

5. Let him watch – Masturbate in front of your man as if you are all alone. There is an almost certain guarantee that he will not be able to keep his hands off you long enough to finish solo.

6. Shower time fun – Massage him in the shower when you are washing him, including a scalp massage as you wash his hair.  But be sure to leave the most sensitive part till last and attend to it thoroughly for an explosive finish.

7. Take Control – Use a little dominance and boss him around a bit. Don’t be afraid to get a little firm when he is disobedient to your commands. By taking control you are radiating confidence that will drive him wild and make him want to do anything you desire.

8. Talk dirty – in the right situation and circumstances a man hearing you say filthy words seductively, particularly if you are generally curse free, can really turn a man on.

9. Let it out – Men like nothing more to hear your moans and expressions that come from him pleasuring you. Men like to know when they are doing something right. Go all out and let him know when he is hitting the spot or that you are about to reach climax.

10. Strip Tease – Dress up in some sexy lingerie and provocatively remove the layers to the beat of music playing in the background. Give him his own personal strip show that will leave him completely satisfied, instead of teased and penniless. You can find a range of affordable and striking lingerie here.

Remember, a man who is regularly surprised by your efforts can prevent you and your partner from falling into a rut or losing the spark.  A man whose girlfriend can drive him wild and keep him guessing, is a happy man.

Tips to help with insecurities

Often insecurities tend to stem from our own thoughts of imperfection, as oppose to any real reasoning from the people who are causing the insecurity. Here are a few things to remember before letting insecurities and jealousy get the better of you.

1. Believe in yourself. See the positives within the person you are. It is not about weighing a certain amount or being perfect in everything that you do. No one is perfect and it is unrealistic to put that burden upon yourself to live up too. Respect yourself and treat yourself with the same decency you would anyone else. Never let anyone else's opinion stop you from being the person you want to be.

2. Do not dwell on insecure thoughts. You do not have to give in to every little thought that pops into your mind. This leads to mental pictures that can leave you thinking the worse not only about yourself, but people close to you as well. Jealousy is the biggest result of over thinking those insecure thoughts that pop into our minds. Making up scenarios in your mind is the worst thing you can do. Talk to y our partner about how you are feeling. Even if they do not agree with you, they may be able to convince you that you are of the wrong thinking. No one is a mind reader. Stop the assumptions and base your feelings on what you know. Do not however let someone make you feel like you do not have the right to feel what you feel.

3. Embrace what is. No one can know what is just around the corner. There is no point in worrying about things you cannot control. Embrace what is and succumb to the excitement of the unknown. Spend less time dwelling on the negatives and have conviction in the presence of good. Stop obsessing about the future. What will be, will be and worrying about the future is a waste of liveliness.

4. Failure is a part of growth. Stop judging yourself for the mistakes that you have made along the way. No one is perfect and making mistakes is how we learn to become better people. Do not judge yourself by the amount of mistakes that you have made. You cannot have great success, without falling down a few times first. Every time you feel yourself judging the mistakes you have made, turn it around and focus on those things that you have accomplished with pride.

5. Choose the right company. Do not waste time with people who make you feel bad about yourself or what you want out of life. Their negative energy about what you want for yourself, will only make you look down on who you are. If someone does not appreciate you for who you are and not who they want you to be, then they are not worth your time… Or your tears.

6. Avoid Expectations. Avoid thinking there is a way a relationship should be and seeing negatives if it is not how you expect. There are no real rules to how a relationship is. At the end of the day, if you are happy within your relationship, then that is what counts. Not all couples act the same, so you should not expect that every relationship is the same. Let go of the need to control every little thing. This will only make you insecure about you and your partner’s connection.

7. Do not compare previous relationships to new ones. Many insecurities in relationships come from experiences of the past. Stop judging someone’s possible actions by something that your exes have done in the past. Do not allow your fear of being hurt ruin your relationship by making you expect the worse.

8. Trust your partner. Being in a relationship is taking a chance and believing that the person you are spending time with is genuine. Exercise giving the benefit of the doubt. Do not give in to insecure thoughts, unless there is legit evidence to believe them.

9. Be confident and affectionate. Show affection with your partner. The simple returned affection and response to this will make you reassured and confident within yourself, merely by knowing that your affection is mutual.

Tips for choosing lingerie for your figure

The most important thing for women when wearing lingerie is to feel comfortable.  The more comfortable you are, the sexier you will feel and ultimately the more confident you will be.  If you’re not sure what’s the most flattering lingerie for your body shape here are a few tips on choosing lingerie for your figure.

Whether you have great legs, impressive cleavage or toned buttocks, it is vital to your confidence to accentuate your best features.  Once you know what you want to cover up and would prefer to draw attention to, you are one step closer to finding the right style of lingerie for you.  Here are a few ideas to accentuate different parts of your body.

Babydolls and Camisoles - If you are conscious of your stomach or thighs sexy babydolls and camisoles are an appropriate choice.  These styles are perfect for covering the stomach and the tops of your thighs.  They are flowing in design and avoid clinging to your stomach.  babydolls and camisoles come in a variety of materials, so you can decide on how see-through they are depending on how big your insecurities are with these areas.  Darker colours also have a slimming effect so if you are insecure about your weight steer clear of anything pastel in colour.  You can find a range of babydolls and camisoles here.

Corsets - The corset is the suitable choice for anyone who views their cleavage as their best asset.  The corset draws attention to this area and also accentuates the natural curves of a women.  For this reason, a lot of women with curvy figures tend to choose this style of lingerie.  You can find a suitable range of corsets here.

Teddies - The teddy is great for accentuating the legs.  The body suit styled teddy makes you appear taller.  Teddies look great with stockings which will also provide extra attention to your best asset.  You can find a range of teddies here.

Matching sets with garter belt - This approach is well applied by taller women.  It shows off your stomach and accentuates your long legs.  If you have smaller breasts, you can opt for a push up bra to give you that extra lift.  If you are aiming at focusing on your legs choose a bra that doesn't give your boobs lift, but alternatively a light material bra that caresses what you naturally have. You can find garter belts and stockings here.

Matching sets with g-string - This combination is perfect for drawing attention to your bottom.  It is classic sexiness and suited best to those who consider their bum to be their best asset.  Boyleg undies can also bring success in this area. You can find a range of suitable matching sets here. 

Bra and Skirt Sets - The bra and skirt sets are more suited for those who are happy with their boobs and/or stomachs but a little self conscious of their thighs.  You can choose your bra depending on your boob volume and cover your thigh area with a pretty flowing skirt bottom.  This will lead focus to your boobs or stomach depending on what bra you decide to wear. You can find a range of bra and skirt sets here.


It doesn't matter what your insecurities, you can successfully find a lingerie style that suits you and draws your partners attention away from those areas you are self conscious of.  So why not make the effort to get something for yourself?  One will never feel as sexy as when they are wearing lingerie.  Your confidence grows with sexy lingerie, even if it's just wearing sexy undies underneath your work clothes.  

Confidence Boosters for Women

Confidence has a huge influence on how others perceive us, not to mention how we feel about ourselves. There are many things in life that can leave us feeling low and sometimes as women all we need is something small to place the confidence back into our step. Here are a few confidence boosters for all women alike.

Get a new hairstyle, cut and colour – There is nothing like a new look. A makeover will leave you feeling fresh and the more people notice the change in you, the more confident you will feel.

Wear sexy underwear – It doesn’t matter if you have someone in your life to reveal your under garments too or if you are just wearing them for yourself. Wearing sexy underwear can make any women feel more confident because she feels sexy. You can buy affordable sexy lingerie here at Confidence is Key Lingerie.

Accept compliments – For most women it is not easy to accept compliments. But try putting your pride aside and instead of dismissing compliments being thrown your way, actually listen to the good things people have to say about you.

Exercise – Not only will you look and feel your best, but you will also ooze confidence as a result of how it has left you feeling.

Spend less time with the mirror – As a general belief woman spend way too much time picking out their flaws when they have too much time in front of the mirror. Shorten your mirror time and you will find the less you pick at your appearance the more confident you will feel.

Girls Night – Get together with your favourite girlfriends for a girls night. Bust out the face masks, have a few homemade cocktails, rent a bunch of DVD’s. Just be yourself!

Smile – it is amazing how great you can feel from such a simple act. People react to it in a positive way which leaves you feeling confident about yourself.

Play Model for a day - If you have a friend or acquaintance that is into photography, enlist your services of being a model for them to photograph. Seeing yourself all dolled up in photographic positions will leave you feeling confident in yourself and most definitely your appearance.

Retail Therapy – No explanation required here.... A new wardrobe is bound to bring any woman a confidence boost!

The next time your confidence is running on empty take a step back and look at yourself through the eyes of others. See the person that they cherish and value in their lives. Just merely believe in who you are and be proud of yourself for it.

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Joining the blogging world

My name is Ann-Marie Boland and I am the director of Confidence Is Key Lingerie. I have always been fascinated with lingerie and it has been an ongoing dream to have my own Lingerie store.

Early 2011 I began loading my cupboard with stock items in the hope that by the end of the year I would have my own Lingerie Website up and running. In November that year, that's exactly what I had achieved. Now it is just a matter of getting my name out there and spreading my belief that confidence is the key to sexiness.

I have decided to begin this blog to share my interest with others and ultimately touch on those subjects of importance to woman, whether it be how to be confident in the bedroom down to the types of Lingerie suited to each body type.

It all started with the simple thought that with a little bit of confidence every woman no matter their size could look stunning in Lingerie. At Confidence is Key Lingerie, we want you to feel and look your best. We try to offer as many designs as possible to suit your idea of perfect Lingerie. We offer a variety of lingerie styles to suit all shapes including Babydolls, Corsets, Bra and Skirt Sets, Teddies and even the Fantasy Play for when you really want to test your confidence.

Always remember, a little bit of confidence goes a long way!