It is not always as obvious as finding
lipstick on their collar or finding random underwear that doesn’t belong to
you. But more often than not, the signs
of someone’s infidelity are there. Here
are a few signs that you might be missing.
With this being said, do not automatically assume that your partner is
guilty of betrayal just because you are experiencing one of these points. Generally there will be more than one sign of
your partner’s unfaithfulness.
Sex? No thanks – If you and your partner
have never had issues in the bedroom and he/she suddenly cannot be seduced, it
can be a sure fire sign that they are getting it elsewhere. Sexual appetite rarely changes overnight. And if it does, there’s always a reason for
it.
Body Image Issues – If your
partner is suddenly worried about their physical appearance when they were
generally unbothered, but you now see them trading in the couch for getting
friendly with a stair master, you might concern yourself with why they suddenly
care about something that they have never worried about before. One must ask, they know you love them for the
way they are, so why the need for a tight ass or chizzled abs now?
Never wanting to spend time
together – You once wanted to spend every second together sharing in mindless
conversation and makeout sessions that could last hours at a time. It didn’t matter what you were doing ranging
from doing the dishes together to just watching TV, as long as you were doing
it together and now they are avoiding spending time with you and prefers to be
by themselves. Or when they do want to
be with you, it’s in a place that others will be. This can be seen as cause for concern.
“Overtime” – your partner all
of a sudden becomes the most hardworking employee when they have always had the
attitude of “9 -5 that’s me, I’m done.” This doesn’t automatically mean that
your partner is cheating on you, but if they seem to be the only one putting in
the hard yards without the knowledge of their co-workers, then there maybe
something more to it.
Disappearing act – If you wake
up at all hours of the night to find that your partner is not there in the bed beside
you and hasn’t let you know where they are going or just generally acting weird
or nervous then you will start to wonder why they are no longer being themselves
around you and questioning what it is they have to hide.
Contraceptive Change – If you
and your partner haven’t used contraception for years and all of a sudden
condoms are being urged to be used or your partner has never used the pill and
now you can find them religiously taken it the same hour of each day even
though you have had a vasectomy…. Yeah things do not look good.
Overprotection of phone – If your
partner no longer lets you surf the net on his phone when he has never had a
problem with, then there is a good chance that he is hiding something.
Always remember that there is no excuse for infidelity and that it is an unforgivable act. If you would like to know the reasoning for this statement you can see my blog Once a cheater always a cheater.
Others choose to opt for a much more personal touch and buy something that they know their partner will love or alternatively something that they know their partner wants. The great thing about gift giving is there really are no rules or limitations. It is a personal act that is often just as enjoyable for the giver as for the receiver.