Common signs of a cheating spouse

It is not always as obvious as finding lipstick on their collar or finding random underwear that doesn’t belong to you.  But more often than not, the signs of someone’s infidelity are there.  Here are a few signs that you might be missing.  With this being said, do not automatically assume that your partner is guilty of betrayal just because you are experiencing one of these points.  Generally there will be more than one sign of your partner’s unfaithfulness.

Sex? No thanks – If you and your partner have never had issues in the bedroom and he/she suddenly cannot be seduced, it can be a sure fire sign that they are getting it elsewhere.  Sexual appetite rarely changes overnight.  And if it does, there’s always a reason for it. 

Body Image Issues – If your partner is suddenly worried about their physical appearance when they were generally unbothered, but you now see them trading in the couch for getting friendly with a stair master, you might concern yourself with why they suddenly care about something that they have never worried about before.  One must ask, they know you love them for the way they are, so why the need for a tight ass or chizzled abs now?

Never wanting to spend time together – You once wanted to spend every second together sharing in mindless conversation and makeout sessions that could last hours at a time.  It didn’t matter what you were doing ranging from doing the dishes together to just watching TV, as long as you were doing it together and now they are avoiding spending time with you and prefers to be by themselves.  Or when they do want to be with you, it’s in a place that others will be.  This can be seen as cause for concern. 

“Overtime” – your partner all of a sudden becomes the most hardworking employee when they have always had the attitude of “9 -5 that’s me, I’m done.” This doesn’t automatically mean that your partner is cheating on you, but if they seem to be the only one putting in the hard yards without the knowledge of their co-workers, then there maybe something more to it.

Disappearing act – If you wake up at all hours of the night to find that your partner is not there in the bed beside you and hasn’t let you know where they are going or just generally acting weird or nervous then you will start to wonder why they are no longer being themselves around you and questioning what it is they have to hide.

Contraceptive Change – If you and your partner haven’t used contraception for years and all of a sudden condoms are being urged to be used or your partner has never used the pill and now you can find them religiously taken it the same hour of each day even though you have had a vasectomy…. Yeah things do not look good.  

Overprotection of phone – If your partner no longer lets you surf the net on his phone when he has never had a problem with, then there is a good chance that he is hiding something.

Always remember that there is no excuse for infidelity and that it is an unforgivable act.  If you would like to know the reasoning for this statement you can see my blog Once a cheater always a cheater.