50 Shades of Grey - Totally Hooked

For the past week I have joined many women all over the world and surrendered myself to the world of 50 Shades of Grey. The long weekend just gone, found me constantly embracing the words of one of the three E. L. James books and it was one of the best weekends I have had in a long time. Oh, the power of a great story playing out in your mind. 

This trilogy has been on the mouths of many for quite some time now, but after reading this book review by Kristy Berridge, I went out and got my very own copy! I was hooked from the first words in chapter one. It is addictive and as the curiosity builds with every page, your heart goes giddy-up and you find yourself romanticizing the “shades of fucked up” Christen Grey in this incredibly erotic tale of emotional scars and surrendering to feelings of passionate love.

Now I am more than half way through the third and final book and I find myself dreading the final words. Although I have no doubt that the ending will tie together nicely, it will be a less satisfying end to a work day or capture of a weekend. I'm trying to pace myself to prolong the end, but as per the other two books I cannot put it down. The only soften to the blow is knowing that a movie is in the works. Many women all over the world have had their imaginations invaded with images of Christian Grey and his controlling ways.

A lot of names are flying around as to who will play Ana Steele and Christian Grey, but I believe I haven’t found anything official in my browsing. Matt Bomer is my Christian. He’s undeniably handsome and brooding and has a lost and broken quality in his eyes that you just want to lose yourself in. Alexis Bledel is my idea of Ana. She is incredibly beautiful, but by the same token naive to it. Who do you envision when you lose yourself in the 50 Shades series? 

Leave a comment with your answers and let us know your thoughts on the 50 Shades Trilogy.

I will leave you with a synopsis for 50 Shades of Grey to ensure that any of you out there who haven’t read it, WILL.  Laters :D

When literature student Anastasia Steele goes to interview young entrepreneur Christian Grey, she encounters a man who is beautiful, brilliant, and intimidating. The unworldly, innocent Ana is startled to realize she wants this man and, despite his enigmatic reserve, finds she is desperate to get close to him. Unable to resist Ana’s quiet beauty, wit, and independent spirit, Grey admits he wants her, too—but on his own terms.

Shocked yet thrilled by Grey’s singular erotic tastes, Ana hesitates. For all the trappings of success—his multinational businesses, his vast wealth, his loving family—Grey is a man tormented by demons and consumed by the need to control. When the couple embarks on a daring, passionately physical affair, Ana discovers Christian Grey’s secrets and explores her own dark desires.

Erotic, amusing, and deeply moving, the Fifty Shades Trilogy is a tale that will obsess you, possess you, and stay with you forever.


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Starting a new relationship after a broken heart

Make sure you are ready – Beginning a new relationship is no way to cure a broken heart. Make sure that you are ready to move on and are not doing it for the wrong reasons. Give yourself some time to feel the heartache. Let your past settle. When you are happy within yourself and are not constantly haunted by positive memories of your relationship with your ex, then you will be ready to move on to the next romantic chapter in your life.

Avoid romanticism – It is unrealistic to think that a partner can meet all your wants and desires. It is up to you to make yourself happy and this should be worked on before going into a new relationship with neediness stamped across your forehead.

Have real expectations – You now have a better idea of what you want in a partner. But make sure that your expectations of future suitors are realistic. You do not want to be hurt again so it is only natural that you are more cautious then in your previous relationship, but it is important to remember that your new partner is only human as are you.

There are plenty of fish in the sea – As lovely as the idea of soul mates is, the realism is that you can be compatible with several different people throughout your lifetime. There are a lot of people out there and this is an assurance that you never have to settle. Find someone who makes you happy and shares your life aspirations. Someone who makes you feel like you’re on top of the world and accepts your shortcomings. That is a person who is worth waking up to.

Do not hold your ex’s mistakes against future partners – You are entitled to the fear that comes with feeling like you have had your heart ripped out of your chest. But it is important that you understand not everyone in your life is going to hurt you. Do not make the mistake of thinking that your exes faults are that of every person you meet and/or spend time with. Leave your baggage in the past.

Don’t put all your eggs in one basket – It is okay to be cautious in the beginning. There is no race or time frames. Get to know someone before you give them everything. The more you give before the relationship status is established the more vulnerable you will be to getting hurt.

Trust your intuition – Listen to your intuition. Do not force yourself to feel something that is not there. Your gut instincts are more often than not a expression of your true thoughts.

Try new avenues – You had no luck with your previous partner meeting them the way you did, why not try different avenues of meeting new people. Even something you have never thought about can be successful. Perhaps invest your time in a new hobby that allows you to mingle with others who have the same passion for what you enjoy doing? There is more than one way to meet new people. You could benefit from doing some research on places to meet new people.

Top 5 topics to avoid on a first date

First dates can be a daunting experience in themselves. To make something that could be extremely rewarding for you and your date less awkward, here are few topics that could be considered inappropriate on a first date. Remember that you are there to get to know each other, but you do not have to cross any lines while doing so, that may make your date uncomfortable.  There is plenty of time to get to know each other and there is no reason to dig too deep too soon.

1. Past Relationships – Talking about your ex/es is never a good idea in the beginning of a new relationship. Leave your ex in the past where they should be and focus on who is right in front of you! 
2. Religion – your belief or disbelief in a higher power may be a very important subject to you. But a first date is not the time or place to discuss it. Leave such a sensitive topic until you really get to know someone. 
3. Sex – If you bring up this subject on a first date it is most likely going to be in the other persons thought that you have a one tracked mind and are only dating for one reason. There are many other subjects to visit and there should be no reason to have to resort to a subject that could be potentially embarrassing for your date. 
4. Money – How much your date earns is not important enough to broach on a first date. Nor is it the place to brag about how much you earn. Money is not of great importance to everyone and you do not want your date to think that it is all you care about. 
5. Marriage and Kids – You don’t want to come down to heavy on your first date by listing how many children you want to have and when you envision being married. The last thing you want to do is scare of a new love interest before they have gotten to know you. If you have children already and do not want to be rejected for that mere fact, insure that your date knows of this prior to going out with them to minimise any disappointments.