"What's Wrong?" "Nothing"

If you are a women looking at the title of this blog, I can pretty much guarantee that you are staring on with a cheeky grin on your face. Because the truth of the matter is, we have all responded with the answer “nothing” to the frequently asked question, “What’s wrong?” Even though the truth is there is something we are dying to get off our chest. If only fear and the pounding of our hearts wasn’t swallowing our words.

Although we undoubtedly grin guiltily at this accusation, it is not something that we should be proud of. Sometimes in life; specifically in a romantic relationship, we find it hard to express our negative feelings, for fear of hurting or losing the person we love. When your partner does something to upset you, you don't want to confront them about it as you would much rather avoid a disagreement.

If you bottle up your feelings and not let your partner know how you feel all the whilst ignoring your upsets and wishing them away, then you both in turn will suffer a great deal more then if you were to just discuss the things that are bothering you. If you play the "nothing's wrong" card, you are not only hurting yourself, but the person you are being dishonest with as well. Although you may have succeeded in that momentary bliss, you will end up having one too many grudges packed away in the back of your mind and it will be your partner who will suffer the consequences of issues that they are quite possibly unaware of.

Although it appears you are avoiding an awkward conversation, it only gets worse the longer you avoid the things that are making you unhappy. When you are unhappy this leads to the unhappiness of your partner as well. While the problem is manifesting, your partner can see that you are hurting and the fact that you deny this can be excruciatingly frustrating for them. Not only do they know that something is wrong, but they are also offended that you do not trust them enough share it with them. There are ways to go about this without offending your partner and if you exercise the truth from the beginning of your relationship, then you will both know what to expect when it comes to matters of the heart.

So next time you find yourself hurting over something, big or small, talk to your partner. More often then not, they will see your point and if they don't perhaps they can provide a better understanding of why they have done what they have. Although the men in our lives claim to be mind readers - the fact the matter is, they're not. Release your fears and open up to your partner so they never have to ask you, "What's wrong?" again. The more open and honest you are with each other, the stronger and happier your relationship will be. Always remember that you are entitled to say whatever you want, when it comes to how you feel.