How not to lose yourself in a relationship

When you are exploring a new relationship it is easy to lose yourself in it. But by doing this, you lose a part of yourself. If for some reason the relationship does not work out you are left with nothing. This makes you feel lost and empty. Here are a few tips to ensure that you do not lose yourself in a relationship. Break-ups are never easy. You may lose your partner, but by following these simple steps, you will not have lost everything. Furthermore, you do not want to change so much that your friends and family no longer relate to who you are.

Preserve your interests – Your hobbies tell a great deal about who you are as a person. While it is suggested that you support and try the interests of your partner, do not lose yourself in their interests. Do not take their hobbies on as your own and neglect what you once believed was important. Remember, your interests and hobbies may have been an attraction to your partner to begin with, because they explain who you are.

Prioritise your friends and family – Remember that your family and friends are a strong part of who you are as a person. When you avoid them to spend more time with your partner, you open up the door to alienation and allow for a distance between you that is hard to get back.

Don’t neglect yourself – Just because you have now become a “we”, does not mean you have to neglect “me.” It is important to remember that you will always be your number one priority. If you had a schedule or significant traditions before meeting your partner, do not lose sight of them. They are no less important, despite your recent love life.

Time Apart – There is no need to make ridiculous schedules in order for this to happen. Merely put some time aside every week where you are allowed to do your own thing. This will ensure that one person’s wants will not be taking precedent over the other person in the relationship.

Don’t romanticize your partner – Your partner may make you the happiest you have ever been. But don’t delude yourself into thinking that he/she is perfect. If you start to believe this, then if ever the possibility you break-up becomes your reality, you will find yourself thinking that you are the blunder because they could never do wrong in your eyes.

Do not hesitate to let your partner know how much they mean to you, but do not allow you individuality to be lost in the process. If you find it too hard to be separated in any stage of your relationship there is no harm in that. But be sure to regularly bring in those other people in your lives that mean a great deal to you. Do not lose sight of them or yourself.