Joining up on a dating site can often be a daunting experience. Not everyone knows the things that they should be aiming for and the things they should try to avoid. Here are a few tips aimed at the guys out there who are trying to have a fulfilling and successful experience in the online dating world.
- Don't use pet names. Ie Babe, Sweety, Love, Hun, Sexy, Scrumptious etc. Not everyone takes well to being called these kinds of nicknames. Nicknames should be developed over time when you get to know the person.
- Read the profile of the person you are interested in. This gives you the opportunity to discover if you are compatible, have things in common, or are generally interested in them beyond the physical.
- Take note of the intent of your interest. If you are on the dating site for different reasons do not waste the other persons time. Don't ask for a random hook-up if it clearly states on their profile that they are seriously looking for a relationship. This will save not only your time, but theirs too.
- When responding to emails or messages do not make the other person do all the work. Questions go both ways and not taking the time to ask questions about the other person leads them to believe you are only interested in them getting to know you. The whole point is getting to know each other.
- Always leave messages that can be responded too. Often responses are not given to blunt answers or messages that do not lead to more conversation. Recipients can easily lose interest if they feel they are not getting anything in return and appear to be doing all the work. If you are not a great conversationalist on screen then your potential partner will be envisioning one LONG date if they ever agreed to go out with you.
- Take note of what is said in conversations. Nothing makes someone feel more special then a person referring to something that they said a few days ago. It shows genuine interest from the person talking to them.
- Leave the more personal questions for when you have been speaking for a while. Respect that some people take longer to be comfortable getting into the more intimate details or even giving out their mobile number.
Almost everyone has a bucket list, whether it be physically written down somewhere or safe in the confines of their minds. More often then not there is a item on the list that has a sexual nature. Here is a bucket list solely meant for those naughty things in life that just can't be missed.
1. On a running washing machine or dryer – Make washing your clothes erotic and get down and dirty while they are busy getting clean.
2. Have sex in the rain – Take a romantic kiss in the rain that one step further and create a new meaning to getting wet. Slip and slide anyone?
3. In a tent – You’re in the middle of nowhere with the wilderness of the unknown just outside a flimsy material wall. Show em whose boss with your screams.
4. In your office – Wait until you’re the only one in the office and invite your partner to christen your desk... or better yet, your bosses!
5. On a water bed – Remember how fun it was to be on a water bed as a kid?... now imagine making love on it!
6. On an air mattress – Try not to squeak so much you wake up the people in the same room.
7. Under the stars – Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star......
8. On a trampoline – Hey, they were designed for fun!
9. At the drive in – Be daring and get it on in your car knowing you are surrounded by other cars. Movie? What Movie? :)
10. On a rooftop – You've tried sex under your roof, now try sex on it.
11. On a boat - Nautically Naughty! Time to rock the boat :)
12. In an elevator – Get him up while you’re on your way up :) See if you can get him/her off before you reach the floor you need.
13. In a bouncy house - Colorful, big, bouncy and fun... No-one can resist stepping inside a bounce house and going wild.
14. On an aeroplane – Start your next holiday of with a bang and join the mile high club.
15. Have a threesome - Hot, Hot, Hot.
16. Use a sex toy on someone else – Add a little buzz to your love life.
17. Have a one night stand – Spend the night with someone you don’t know. A one night stand can be a pleasurable experience filled with thrilling excitement.
18. Have sex with someone younger – Every woman should have sex with a younger man. Their energy and enthusiasm will make you feel younger than ever.
19. Sex in a foreign country (with a foreigner) – Find a new way of communicating. Sex is a language we all understand.
20. Be a sexual slave for the night – Have your partner command you with sexual requests for an entire night. Everything that’s asked you must do.
When you're out on the town with your friends or just having a girly cocktail night at home, it can be hard to resist the urge to call your latest crush or ex boyfriend with the new found confidence that has emerged with your alcohol consumption. These calls can leave you with regret and embarrassment for days after when you have slept off your drunkenness. Worst of all, sometimes you don’t even remember what was said. So even if something of significance was discussed you would not be able to remember it anyway. This can be particularly regretful or embarrassing if the person that you have drunk dialled was sober at the time of your slurring conversational skills. Drunk dialling can be extremely difficult to avoid, but here are a few suggestions to help you with the avoidance.
1 Control your drinking. Number one is quite obvious. If you control the amounts of alcohol you consume you will have better control of your actions which will ultimately mean better judgement calls and hopefully these calls will stop you from getting stuck in the drunk dial trap.
2 Entrust your phone to a friend. Choose a friend who will be able to keep your phone safe. It also has to be a friend that won’t give in to your pleas. This person should be someone who is capable of determining what calls are genuinely important. Your phone should not be returned until you have awoken and sobered up the following day. The phone carer must also be someone who is responsible enough not to lose your phone either.
3 Leave your phone at home. If you know that you have no self control and that your friends give in to your whining way too easily, sometimes the only answer is to leave your phone at home. Make sure that your friends have access to their phone or a public phone so you are able to call a taxi or designated driver to come and get you at the end of the night or early hours of the next morning.
4 Delete problem numbers. Sometimes you have no option but to have your phone on you in case of emergencies. Try writing down problem numbers from your phone before deleting them so that it is impossible to drunk dial certain people without first finding the piece of paper that you have documented their number on. Potential drunk dial receivers are anyone you may have feelings for, your ex or anyone you are mad at.
5 Phone Applications. There are several different apps that have been created for your phone to stop you from making this mistake. Check out the options that are available for your phone type to help you prevent making yet another drunken call.
